IS HE RIGHT FOR ME ? 6 WAYS TO DETERMINE IF HE IS "THE ONE"

If you have been dating someone for a while, you may wonder if he is “the one”, and in your haste to find Mr. Right, you are sometimes blinded by your feelings, and can sometimes end up with somebody who is really not good for you.

It is important for any woman such as yourself to understand that if you are not completely honest with yourself and do not see the relationship for what it really is, you could very well find yourself 10 years down the track in a marriage you wish you’d never got into. So most likely, before you enter into a long term relationship you want to find out how to determine if he is right for me.

Some of the consequences of choosing the wrong person to spend your life with include:

Consequence 1. You will always feel that something is missing

Consequence 2. You will know deep down that you deserve better

Consequence 3. You may spend many years feeling trapped with somebody who is just not right for you

Consequence 4. You may find yourself as a single mother, after having children to this person you never should have even been in a relationship with

Consequence 5. You will live your life feeling unhappy and unfulfilled

It is pretty fair to say that most women, when head over heels in love, will not be able to see things as clearly as the people around her. So to find out if this person really is the right one for you, try following these six tips:

Tip 1. Find out what do your friends and family think about your relationship. Do they like him, do they hate him, what are their thoughts? Remember, your friends and family love you and want the best for you, so what they have to say should not be taken lightly.

Tip 2. Think about how you feel about your partner in your heart. Are you trying to kid yourself into thinking this relationship is perfect, or is it really imperfect? Be totally honest with yourself, because if you’re not, you will eventually live to regret your dishonesty with yourself.

Tip 3. Consider how he treats you. Does he treat you with love and respect? Is he treating you in the way that you know you deserve to be treated? If you put yourself in your best friend’s shoes, how would she feel about your relationship?

Tip 4. Think about how much you have in common. Do you have common beliefs, values and interests? Are you truly compatible for the long term?

Tip 5. Think about the way he makes you feel most of the time. If you are constantly walking on eggshells, or you are often annoyed or angry at him for whatever reason, then the answer here is obvious. If however he treats you like a queen, worships the ground you walk on, and you know he would do absolutely anything for you, and you feel the same way about him (and this is important!), then chances are your relationship is off to a great start.

Tip 6. And one of the most important ways to determine if he is right for you is to ask yourself this question, If my mom or sister or aunt was the same age as I would I feel comfortable with knowing that he was her companion? If your answer to this question is no, you should seriously rethink the relationship because if he isn’t good enough for your family or people you love he surely isn’t good enough for you.

Finding out if he is right for you is as simple as looking at your relationship with complete honesty. Look at your relationship from both yours and his perspective, and consider how your friends and family view your relationship as well, because it is those closest to you that will see your relationship for what it truly is.